Monday, October 31, 2005

A Community in Motion

Due to the "Disarray in our Kitchen" we needed to move Com242's gathering to the Newton's home last night. It was good to be somewhere else for the night. This will probably be the last opportunity for us to gather at their home because they are moving out in less than two weeks from now. Ironically they are moving in with our neighbor next door Timmi, who has recently joined our community. She has been with us now for the past three Sundays. We were also joined by Joe & Kathy who are friends of Roger & Cynthia.

We should have home emergencies more often. The food, family, fellowship was all fantastic!

Kitchen in Disarray

Thursday night while cleaning the kitchen I moved the mat in front of the sink only to find that it was wet underneath. I shrugged it off as the kids probably spilled some water and failed to wipe it up. Anyway, I pulled the mat away and dried the wood flooring with some towells.

The next day about 4:00 p.m. I had just returned from work at Starbucks when I noticed the trash bag that lives under the sink was out. So I put it back. A few minutes later Mimi removed it again and informed me that the floorboard under the sink appeared to be wet. So I began investigating. What I found when I removed everything? Our water filtration system that was here when we moved in 7 years ago today, had been knocked over and was flooding the cabinets. There was a good inch of standing water in some places.

We immediately stood up the water treatment system and began sopping up the water with a sponge and towells. Next I called AAA, our home owners insurance company and filed a claim over the phone. They sent an emergency team out on Saturday to begin the cleanup process. Well, there was mold in there...so they sealed our cabinets and set up a loud dehydration system. The large machine in my kitchen has been running non-stop now for over 48 hours. We have called both AAA and the company who brought the machine today but haven't had our calls returned. Hopefully before we leave to go Trick-or-Treating tonight we'll get some answers. We are not sure how big of a problem we are in for, but we are bracing ourselves.

Our house is now almost 20 years old and it seems like things are starting to happen that indicate the house is 20 years old. Right now many of our neighbors are putting new roofs on their homes...ours has held up so far, but you never know what the next fix will be. I'll post more when I know more.

Costume Party @ the Schoelens'

Blue (from Blue's Clues), Tigger, a Cowgirl and I (Bono) all donned our appropriate attire and attended the Schoelen's annual Halloween Party. This was only the second time since Mimi and I have been married that we have dressed for Halloween. We were scrambling last minute to find costumes for us (MImi and me) and to relocate the ones we had for the kids. My costume was pretty much just me in black with some blue shades that were reminiscent of Bono's. Fortunately a few people were able to figure out who I was supposed to be. Others probably just thought I forgot to dress for the party. I had similar success dressing in the same clothes at Starbucks today.

The party afforded the opportunity to connect and reconnect with several people on our support team and some we'd like to add potentially. It also gave us a chance to talk to more of Mark and Danielle's neighbors. We have now had three occassions I think over the past 10 months or so. We are simply trying to be faithful and walk through the doors that God opens for us.

Among my favorite costumes of the night: Mark and Danielle as Pirates from Pirates of the Caribbean, John, Holly, and kids as the Incredibles family, and Joey and Tracey as Napolean Dynamite & his girlfriend.

The highlight of the night for me was the final 7:03 of the UCLA-Stanford game which saw the Bruins come back from a 21 point deficit to tie the game 24-24. And then to win it with a touchdown in overtime. The Bruins are making a name for themselves as the Cardiac Kids...and it fits. 8-0 with three to go. They are now ranked 5th in the BCS with a showdown waiting in the wings with #1 ranked USC.

One funny sidenote: Mimi left her purse in Danielle's closet....not the funny part yet. So last night she called and Mark agreed to bring it by Starbucks after his Bootcamp this morning. So here comes Mark walking into Starbucks with a bright pink purse with an "M" emblazed on the side. It was quite funny. He pulled it off beautifully. I asked him if the "M" was for Mark or for Mimi? He just laughed.

Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Jane

Jane is an aspiring actress from New York who moved to L.A. to make it on TV and in film. She is Jewish by culture but told me Monday that she doesn't believe in God. Jane and I have spoken many times over the last several months. Her story is unfolding every time I talk to her. It was early on I discovered that she was in the process of divorce with the father of her daughter Lila, who happens to be an Arab Muslim.

Jane, being Jewish and from New York, can be quite abrupt (no offense Brian). She has been known to get into shouting matches with her ex-husband on her cell phone in the middle of a rush at Starbucks. Drama and Jane seem to go together quite nicely.

Monday was the first time Jane asked me about my faith. It was on my 10, so I didn't have much time, but I was able to share my confidence in Jesus. Jane is intrigued how I can be a pastor, father and husband, Starbucks barista and live in this community. The finances and the pictures in her head don't add up. I think she is also intrigued that I am a guy who isn't after anything with her. It seems from our conversations that Jane has had her share of heartaches. In the few months that I have known her she has had her heart broken by two different men and that doesn't include the one she is divorcing.

Pray for Jane. She is searching for God, though I'm not sure she knows it yet. In her mind it is still about finding the right guy who will be good to her and her daughter.

Mimi's New Window Seat

Probably 2 years ago or more I promised to build a window seat for Mimi. Well that promise was finally fulfilled yesterday. Thank you Eric for your help, design and expertise. It looks great. We still need to do the finish work on it, but it is well on its way. I'll post a picture of it as soon as we get it painted and the top cushion done.

UCLA Romps OSU

Saturday I had the opportunity to take in a great game at the Rose Bowl with a bunch of great guys. UCLA won big 51-28 and played their best overall game of the year. As long as they keep it up they should be undefeated when they face USC on the last game of the year. That will be a great showdown. I'll post some photos later. Thanks Mike, Dave, Linus, Linus Jr., Steve, and the gang. We should definitely do this again! And thanks Steve for being a good sport and hanging out longer so Dave would have a ride home.

Friday, October 21, 2005

We are Family...

One of the amazing things about the Starbucks store I work at is the family-like atmosphere that we share as partners. I can't speak for other Starbucks, but we actually care for one another. It isn't unusual for our partners to hang out at the store off-duty every day for hours. In fact it is quite unusual to go more than an hour or two and not see an off-duty partner. Some come in a couple of times per day, much like our customers.

Yesterday, I heard Vanessa say "Goodbye Nadia, I love you." Now that doesn't happen other places, does it? Especially when you consider Nadia has only worked here for a week or two. We have something special indeed. I believe a large part of it has to do with the church within our Starbucks. There are several people who walk with Jesus who work at our store and the love and affirmation are contagious. It is a beautiful thing!

While sometimes you may hear a bit of gossip or disgruntling about this new partner and whatever challenge they've encountered recently for the most part we genuinely like each other and love the community that we share.

Vanessa's last day with us is tomorrow. We are very sad to see her go...She is being promoted to shift-lead and will be going to another store a couple of miles away. She is sad and the rest of us are too. We know she will continue to come by, but it just won't be the same. Alana is also being promoted and sent to another store...Soon Erin and eventually me, too will be going elsewhere. Will the family stay in tact...only God knows. But I'm hoping with dispursement comes more opportunity to infect others with the power and presence of Jesus.

Some Good Reads

Hey Amazon finally did their job and delivered my books! I have started two already...Revolution by George Barna and The Organic Church by Neil Cole. Both are excellent so far. I highly recommend them...especially if you are willing to think, look, act outside the proverbially church box. Let me know if any of you have comments about these or other revolutionary type books, articles, blogs out there. Another book that has transformed me over and over again is The Shaping of Things to Come by Frost & Hirsch. This one is worth a read or two.

Monday, October 17, 2005

UCLA & USC pull off stunning Comebacks

Saturday marked a day that looked as if both UCLA & USC would be beaten for the first time this season. Thanks to a couple of amazing comebacks, that had them tying the game with 44 ticks left (UCLA) and winning it in regulation with 3 seconds left (USC) that was not the case. Next week I have the privilege of going to UCLA's homecoming game against Oregon State with some friends from CA. We are still hoping for a showdown USC & UCLA on December 3rd. Hopefully they will both be undefeated still.

UCLA was down by 17 at the start of the 4th Quarter but rallied to tie and then win it in overtime with a Maurice Drew 1 yard touchdown run.

USC in what is being called the game of the year were down to 4th and 9 on their own 26 with just two minutes remaining. They completed a 61 yard pass from Leinert to Jarrett and continued down the field. Leinart then twisted and turned and barely made it into the end zone just in time.

Football is back in Socal.

CA Fundraiser & Reunion

Saturday night we were invited by Warren & Connie Schu to join them at their table for the Grand Tour, which is Christian Associates very cool fundraising event at the Reagan Library in Simi Valley. The event brought friends from all over Europe who are missionaries as well as many people we have known for years throught Calvary Community Church and elsewhere. We had a great time, especially connecting with our friends from the other side of the pond. You know who you are.

The event featured testimonies and videos from several missionaries who are reaching the emerging culture in Europe. Story is the way to people's hearts and we heard some good ones. I am blessed to be part of such an amazing organization that takes Jesus and his mission seriously, but not ourselves. Thanks Warren & Connie for the invite. I'm sure Sam & Toni are grateful as well:)

Saturday, October 15, 2005

Another Great Post from Ryan Bolger

"A focus on the church service as connecting point perpetuates the idea that following Jesus is about going to church. The community's life takes the form of American congregational religion rather than the fluid practices of the gospel, and this emphasis presents quite a barrier to the 'seeker' outside, as they need to be converted to the values of American religious congregationalism before they can come to faith. Thus, virtually all of those who are attracted to the relevant service were raised in church or are currently going to another church -- they are not the never-churched. In contrast, a missional congregation connects with those outside the faith by, well, connecting with those outside of the community in their world. Connecting happens not in a 'come to us' CHURCH service, but through 'go and dwell' church SERVICE, i.e. service in the community -- living alternative lives."

Church Services for Whom?

Ryan Bolger from Bolgblog just posted this. It was too good to pass up! Thanks Ryan!

Please, No More Doing Church For 'Them'

I just received a question from an associate that asked how to start a service to attract people from outside the church. I encouraged her to give up on this idea.

But what could possibly be wrong with starting a relevant church service directed to spiritual seekers?

Relevant churches are rarely even closely relevant. Most Christians don't even like them. They might be better than Mom and Dad's morning service, but they usually are quite irrelevant to the outsider. The church person cannot 'guess' what the seeker wants, undoubtedly getting it wrong. What Christians need to do is create meaningful worship through bringing their very own lives to God. Worship must reflect the culture of the community that is currently part of the church, not replicate current worship CDs, nor 1980s soft rock, nor 18th century hymns. Instead of mimicking other church cultures, the community collectively brings their own idiosyncratic ways of life to God, whatever they may be. Indeed, the church may have the stray outsider finding themselves in the worship service and joining the community. But if the focus is on them, simply to be relevant, their worship will satisfy neither the church members nor the outsider.

Other reasons?
A focus on the church service as connecting point perpetuates the idea that following Jesus is about going to church. The community's life takes the form of American congregational religion rather than the fluid practices of the gospel, and this emphasis presents quite a barrier to the 'seeker' outside, as they need to be converted to the values of American religious congregationalism before they can come to faith. Thus, virtually all of those who are attracted to the relevant service were raised in church or are currently going to another church -- they are not the never-churched. In contrast, a missional congregation connects with those outside the faith by, well, connecting with those outside of the community in their world. Connecting happens not in a 'come to us' CHURCH service, but through 'go and dwell' church SERVICE, i.e. service in the community -- living alternative lives.

A focus on the service as connecting point perpetuates the sacred/secular split of modernity. When the bulk of the community's energy goes to maintaining a church service, it implies that the church service is more holy, more important, more worthy of our time than the everyday practice of our spirituality.

A focus on the service as connecting point perpetuates the clergy/laity split -- there are those who 'do' ministry, and then there is everyone else. Instead, the role of the leaders is to facilitate the worship expression of the community as a whole.

A focus on the service as connecting point perpetuates the producer/consumer form of spirituality -- those on paid or volunteer staff produce spiritual products for passive spectators to consume. Instead, the church must create a context for the community production of worship -- we consume as we produce...


What are the alternatives to connecting through the church service?

To clarify, those who desire to connect with the outsider are in synch with the God of the universe. Truly, mission lies at the very heart of God. However, those of us raised in the evangelical tradition have been socialized into thinking that this connection needs to happen through a church service.

Instead we need to take another look at worship and mission and allow for some other possibilities, such as:

The worship service is no longer an evangelistic service for outsiders but a space to practice heaven for a period of time, facilitating the offering of the community life to God in worship. If a guest of the community finds God in the service, all the better, but this is not the focus.

Mission happens in the 'world', in the world formerly known as secular, on their 'turf' -- not ours. As servants, the Christian connects with the seeker through service in their world.

Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Thank You Google

I found a site where another customer has posted the customer service number for Amazon. Thank you!

For those of you who find yourself in a similar situation...it is 1-800-201-7575.

Venting a Bit

Two weeks ago I ordered some books from Amazon. They still have not arrived, so today I went online to check out the status of the books....only to be in shock when the delivery date is set for December 9! There is no way I should have to wait over two months for books, even if I did use the super saver. This is ridiculous. I have since been looking all over the Amazon site for a phone number so I can talk to one of these geniuses.

Cool Water

Nothing tastes better when you're really thirsty than a glass of cold water. Well, in my own thirsty world I have received many glasses of cool water through a variety of individuals. Thank you Brian, Warren, Connie, Dave, Greg, and Paul. God has used each of you in my life more than you know.

Sunday, October 09, 2005

...to be continued

Most of life I've noticed lately is to be continued. There are very few times in life that you can say Game over! Now that the baseball playoffs are on...game over is coming to most teams, but there is still more to come...to be continued. Life just seems to go on. And most of the time it never turns out exactly the way we plan it to.

Take our Com242 gathering this evening. We were encouraged that two new families and one friend from work were going to join us. Well two phone calls later and we were down to the friend at work, John, who brought Vanessa. We enjoyed good time and good food together. They seemed to gel pretty well with us but I'm not going to write any endings to this story just yet. It is definitely just starting out with much more to be continued.

Another to be continued story is the transition of Roger & Cynthia as they received an offer on their home today. So we'll wait and see what God has in this unfolding saga we call life. As for the Angels, they lost tonight in New York, so their to be continued has them playing a deciding game 5 tomorrow in Anaheim. My mom, Roger, Rick and Robin will be there to root them on.

Starbucks Bible Study?

There was a suggestion at work yesterday that maybe we ought to have a Bible Study with Starbucks employees. I'm not sure about the policies and I sure don't want to ruin the inroads I'm making there, but it could be very cool. It wasn't my idea and others seemed to want it to happen. So for now I'm going to sit tight and let others get the momentum going...if it does then I can throw my hat in the ring. I'll let you know how it goes.

Thursday, October 06, 2005

Apple Pie

John from work (Starbucks) has decided that he wants to come to our "Bible Study". He told me so the other day. John and I have had a few conversations that have been of a spiritual nature. One such conversation involved a two-hour long "Gospel" talk he had with a friend after watching "The Exorcism of Emily Rose." John has grown up Catholic and has a real and authentic faith, but his spiritual hunger is growing beyond what his church has provided thus far. So he's looking for more...

He is going to join us this Sunday with a fresh Apple Pie from a trip he is taking tomorrow to Julian in San Diego county. You can note that I have a smile on my face:)

Wow!

Well, exactly one day after reporting our free fall of financial support...we got the September update. It was the largest giving month since December! We are humbled and grateful for God's mercy and that of his followers.

Peace.

Wednesday, October 05, 2005

Com242

Community242 is going about some changes. We have already moved from Thursday to Sunday. It was getting really hard to keep the kids (ours and others) up so late. Our time has changed to 4p.m. And the people are in a constant state of flux. Roger and Cynthia have purchased a home in Parker (Denver suburb), and will be moving after the first of the year. We have a couple of different families that are considering being a part of our church. There are also some younger people I have met through Starbucks who might be in the mix in the future.

This Sunday we are starting a study through the book of Acts. We are going to be focusing on the Mission of God in the world then and now! If this piques your interest and you're available let us know. We do need RSVPs however, because as always we enjoy a meal together.

A typical Sunday afternoon would include: hang out time, eating & drinking, prayer & singing, teaching & discussion.

Also new to Com242. We are starting a new prayer support team. Mostly people outside our community will agree to pray weekly for Com242, the pre-Christians we are building bridges with, our financial support, etc. Mimi and I will provide regular prayer updates/concerns/needs.

My friend Brian asked me recently how our support (financial) was going? I was honest! I said it sucked. Since May our support has gone from around $4000 per month to $2000 per month. Yeah it's that bad! We are looking into several solutions. I am working more hours at Starbucks (30-35 per week). Mimi is looking for students to tutor and considering a position at the YMCA a couple of nights per week. And we are seeking new people and churches to support us.

Recently we met with a couple, Warren & Connie, for guidance and support. They are an amazing couple and we fell in love with them. It was their suggestion to start the prayer team. And Warren suggested that we seek support from more churches. Currently only Lake Hills is supporting us. So that's what we are doing. If you wish to join our financial team or the prayer team, please send me an email: at frodo242@sbcglobal.net.

Grammie Carol

Not too many people could say this, but one of my heroes is my mother-in-law. She is an amazing woman. She is a gifted educator. She loves God and her love for God flows through her to everyone around her. And she is a wonderful grandma to our girls and to their cousins.

Right now Grammie Carol is hurting. She has a ruptured disc in her back that has her on bed rest. It is really cramping her style (she is a consumate doer). Her "condition" also has been a tremendous blessing as she has been forced to stop! and trust God. She and God have been spending lots of time together. And one of the best things is that she had to completely give over care of her parents to the Care Facility. All good things.

Now if we could only get her off bed rest so she could watch our kids again:)!

On the Homefront

In case you haven't read our previous posts, we have insurance again thanks to Starbucks. While some things are frustrating about our coverage (we had to go cheap), we are feeling good these days about being able to take our kids to the doctor when there is a problem.

Houston, we have a problem. Becca hasn't been pooping much...OK at all. She goes about once each week. Well, this morning we took her for x-rays and she is impacted. So thank you Starbucks and Dr. Vadapalli. Now we can get our little girl the help she needs via Milk of Magnesia, etc. We'd appreciate your prayers.

She had an extremely difficult night last night. She woke up crying and in pain. Mimi ended up holding her, crying with her until she dosed back off. It was both a difficult and beautiful thing to watch.

Natalie is taking her class picture today for year two of preschool. She loves her class and teachers.

Mimi is looking for extra work she can do from home. One thing she will be doing is tutoring high school students. If you know someone who needs tutoring...I know a good one!

I continue to work at Starbucks and recently found out I will be becoming a shift lead hopefully in November. The cool news is that I get to stay at my store! I love my store....the people I work with...my manager. Sometime after the first of the year I will be entering the RMT: Retail Management Training.

Back to the Blog

I am blogging to inform the world or at least the two or three of you that read my blog that I am once again returning to the world of blog. So with that said...I'm off to blog.